Does your partner know about your blog?
Mine doesn’t and I started to ask myself recently if keeping a secret blog is akin to cheating. Now I am quite aware that it is nothing in comparison to my wife’s affair and doesn’t even constitute an emotional attachment but it is a secret and it remains so mainly because If she knew about it she would naturally want to read it and that of course would end up being upsetting for her. After all, she is one of the main protagonists and isn’t cast in a very good light not to mention the fact that the content is sometimes a little raw, a little dark and even when I try to bring humor into a post it isn’t really any more light-hearted.
You see by having this blog I am in a way going against everything that we have decided we have to do in the future, meaning being completely honest with each other with no lies or secrecy, not that I have lied about having a blog, it just hasn’t come up in conversation.
Before I started these pages I used to have five other blogs, I still do I guess, but I haven’t updated them for over a year and I have no intentions of doing so as they are very public and followed by many friends and family who simply think that I have decided to stop writing because I don’t have time, my social media accounts such as Facebook, twitter etc have been deleted and even my linked-in account has been reset so I can properly monitor everyone with “connections” to me
So I simply wondered out of idle curiosity if your partner (assuming that you were the victim of an affair) knows about your blog and what they think about it.
Also, and this might seem a little unfair but, if you were the guilty party and you now have a secret blog do you think that you are really doing everything you can to make amends by keeping yet more secrets?
I know that sounds like double standards and maybe it is but that’s life I’m afraid, I feel like I need the support network as I am unable to discuss my situation with people I actually know without vindicating my wife but if I thought she had a secret blog telling the world how good or bad she felt about the whole affair I would be out the door not even bothering to leave a note to say “I thought we said no more secrets”
Anyway, now I have you thinking (or shouting at the unfairness of double standards) I will bid you all a good weekend and say farewell